I'm sorry, David. I've asked myself very similar questions in the past. Why people have to create these little "dramas" I'll never fully understand. Yes...there IS a psychological/spiritual reason, but it just isn't much concellation, is it.

Hugs to you, my friend.

Been there-done that...some people have abandonment issues and unconsciously look for new mates even while beginning a relationship with someone else. they may care about you deeply, but they will not allow you to hurt or leave them-they cannot handle this. Therefore, they almost always dump you first or have someone on the backburner so they won't be alone. And if they mess around on you, that's winning to them because you did not do it to them. No, it makes no sense..only in the dysfunctional mind. It's a defense mechanism, and yes, it sucks. It really hurts the person because they are never honest with themselves and of course it hurts the other person that has had to deal with this. All I can say is the old irritating adage "there are more fish in the sea" and tell you to hold your head up!!

(that'll be 50 bucks!! )